Shame to Fame

Imagine you’re walking on a footpath and suddenly trip and fall down. What would be your first thought?

In most cases, “Did someone watch? & wanting to leave that place immediately!!”

Isn’t it strange that instead of thinking whether you have injured self or lost something, very first thought is of embarrassment & shame!! It doesn’t stop here, there are studies which suggest that even in cases where people undergo snatch theft feel a sense of shame and doesn’t prefer to talk about it until it’s necessary.

It’s a natural tendency to feel ashamed when we make mistakes. But why is that we feel shame even when we are victimised? Like, when people are subjected to financial betrayal or abuses. It is more so when it comes to sexual violations. A huge percentage of sexual violations never get reported because the victims feel a deep sense of shame to come forward, Whereas in reality the Perpetrator is the one who needs to be ashamed.

This happens because the dignity of Victims gets shattered when their boundaries are breached and they are at the mercy of another person. This feeling of helplessness develops into a deep wound resulting in shame and eventually blame and anger towards Self for being subjected to such an experience.

Feeling of shame doesn’t need to come from an intense traumatic experience. People succumb to it in day-to-day experiences. A child getting casually picked in class and made fun of, Unconscious verbal abuses from parents, not being innovative at office, the body shaming, economical status, relationship status and on and on and on. When we have so many scenarios which are ready to pull us down everyday, what can we do about it? 

The answer is to re-connect to the Self-Esteem & Worthiness we all are born with. We need to expand our awareness to know that we are not our circumstances, We are bigger than them. This can be achieved by systematically establishing a deep sense of respect and admiration to the source energy within all of us, which makes us all equally worthy.

One Practical solution which works amazingly well is to make a list of 5-6 points which you Respect and Admire about Yourself (something like “I Admire my Courage” , “I Admire my Patience” etc.,) and glance through it just before you go to sleep. By doing that you handover a task to your Sub-Conscious mind to strengthen these aspects of you, throughout your sleep cycle. If you are not sure what is that you admire in yourself, repeat the following statements few times and you will be surprised to see so many aspects your personality which are worth an admiration. 

R5 Statements: 

I Revive my admirable personality

I Recognize my admirable personality

I Realign my admirable personality

I Reorient my admirable personality

I Reposition my admirable personality